Where to start with your vows...


That's 100% normal, and absolutely what I'm here for!  

Your vows are there to express your love, to make promises and show your commitment as a couple. They are the special words that unite you and represent your future. Writing your own vows is a beautiful way to personalise this intimate part of your ceremony - your chance to speak to your partner, from your heart. 

It's a good idea to talk to one another so you are both on the same track - all serious, some funny, same format but your own words... 


So, to start with, here are some thought provokers:

  • At what point did you know you wanted to marry your partner? Why?

  • What inspires you about them?

  • What do you respect most about your partner?

  • What goals/values do you share?

  • What are the little things your partner does for you that you appreciate? Or that you do for them that they appreciate?

So how do you put all this together into something that sounds wonderful?

1. Start with a statement about who your partner is to you.
2. Next, talk about what you love about them.
3. Make promises and vow to stick to them, like: “I vow to always support you,” or “I promise to always put two sugars in your coffee”
4. Talk about how you intend to show your love - whether that's in romantic ways, funny ways or ways only the two of you understand.
5. Include something about how you’ll be there if times are tough.
6. Close with a promise for the future.  Note that this doesn’t have to be “as long as we both shall live”!

7. Lastly, ensure you include the legal statement: "I (full name), take you (full name), to be my wife/husband/partner".

This can be at the start, the middle, or the end - whatever works best!


Need some more help?  Download my Vows & Ring Exchange pdf document!